I could try to explain, but most likely I would fail, and ultimately a person may fall short if they tried to fit into some pre-set limits of what is "acceptable and desired".
This is the best quote I could find to convey how I feel~
"When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory."Friedrich Nietzsche