@Blazza: I SHOULD START A DATING SERVICE
Too bad you live so far. I have a few cool single female friends! D:< Or they were single last I checked...
As for people getting hurt... If you both are at that time in your life, I don't see that being a problem. If not... Maybe :/ my advice would be don't hang out with each others in a matter that'd allow feelings to develop: don't just hang out to hang out, don't talk to each other much, etc.
What Kind Of Guy/girl Do U Like?
what kind of guy/girl do u like?
Let me tell you one thing though.
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
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Odin.Blazza said:
Call it what you want, but you just described a gf in my book.
I guess by most people's definition that would pretty much be a girlfriend, but I guess the only thing that changes it in my books is degree of expectations and simply not caring what another does with their life. Same way you wouldn't care what a friend does for his job, or whom they date, etc.
Artemicion said:
Odin.Blazza said:
Artemicion said:
I suppose this is my fear of not meeting expectations talking for me.
Yeah. It's not easy to truly be content with yourself when other people come into the picture, especially ones that end up being close and personal.
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Let me tell you one thing though.
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Let me tell you one thing though.
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
I understand. My reasoning isn't exactly meant to "fill the hole in my heart" but rather give a nice change of pace and have some sense of companionship but keep things on even plane without needless complications. But again, we know that doesn't always work as expected. People change, feelings develop, people get hurt, and it sucks, and that applies to both parties.
Artemicion said:
Odin.Blazza said:
Call it what you want, but you just described a gf in my book.
I guess by most people's definition that would pretty much be a girlfriend, but I guess the only thing that changes it in my books is degree of expectations and simply not caring what another does with their life. Same way you wouldn't care what a friend does for his job, or whom they date, etc.
Sex only makes you feel empty if you're looking for love. If you're not wanting love/not ready for it it's fine.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
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Odin.Blazza said:
Artemicion said:
Odin.Blazza said:
Call it what you want, but you just described a gf in my book.
I guess by most people's definition that would pretty much be a girlfriend, but I guess the only thing that changes it in my books is degree of expectations and simply not caring what another does with their life. Same way you wouldn't care what a friend does for his job, or whom they date, etc.
I suppose even friendship is a double edged sword.
Giving them freedom to be themselves and make their own choices is a great foundation of friendship but at the same time it needs your involvement, opinion, concern, to keep things in order.
Leviathan.Niniann said:
@Blazza: I SHOULD START A DATING SERVICE
Too bad you live so far. I have a few cool single female friends! D:< Or they were single last I checked...
As for people getting hurt... If you both are at that time in your life, I don't see that being a problem. If not... Maybe :/ my advice would be don't hang out with each others in a matter that'd allow feelings to develop: don't just hang out to hang out, don't talk to each other much, etc.
Too bad you live so far. I have a few cool single female friends! D:< Or they were single last I checked...
As for people getting hurt... If you both are at that time in your life, I don't see that being a problem. If not... Maybe :/ my advice would be don't hang out with each others in a matter that'd allow feelings to develop: don't just hang out to hang out, don't talk to each other much, etc.
Artemicion said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Let me tell you one thing though.
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
If you do this to kill loneliness, it won't help. Sex really doesn't help you on that matter, on the contrary it makes you even more empty(or emptier?)
I can tell you from experience, you can have all the pleasure you want, but it doesn't fill the hole in the heart(INB4 PUNS ABOUT OTHER HOLES BEING FILLED!)
I understand. My reasoning isn't exactly meant to "fill the hole in my heart" but rather give a nice change of pace and have some sense of companionship but keep things on even plane without needless complications. But again, we know that doesn't always work as expected. People change, feelings develop, people get hurt, and it sucks, and that applies to both parties.
Leviathan.Niniann said:
Sex only makes you feel empty if you're looking for love. If you're not wanting love/not ready for it it's fine.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
It's hard to say where I am in this.
I recently had a fling, and I don't necessarily feel empty or lonely afterwards, but it would be nice to still hang around with that person and enjoy their company for things other than bedroom activities you know? I honestly don't have that many friends.
I honestly think you do want a relationship, but you're scared of it. Don't be. Just try.
Artemicion said:
Odin.Blazza said:
Artemicion said:
Odin.Blazza said:
Call it what you want, but you just described a gf in my book.
I guess by most people's definition that would pretty much be a girlfriend, but I guess the only thing that changes it in my books is degree of expectations and simply not caring what another does with their life. Same way you wouldn't care what a friend does for his job, or whom they date, etc.
I suppose even friendship is a double edged sword.
Giving them freedom to be themselves and make their own choices is a great foundation of friendship but at the same time it needs your involvement, opinion, concern, to keep things in order.
Also, I should stfu and no-one should listen to me, I'm practically a virgin.
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I honestly think you do want a relationship, but you're scared of it. Don't be. Just try.
Even I don't know what I really want.
Too difficult to explain. But I guess if it comes down to one thing it's simply a matter of having things be easy going. Hence the companionship/sex + friendship formula rather than being an item to each other.
Odin.Blazza said:
I'm practically a virgin.
JOKE!
Artemicion said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I honestly think you do want a relationship, but you're scared of it. Don't be. Just try.
Even I don't know what I really want.
Too difficult to explain. But I guess if it comes down to one thing it's simply a matter of having things be easy going.
Blazza's right Art you want a girlfriend, and not a crazy one. That's more or less how my relationship now is.
As for *** buddy: I was friends with mine. Watched anime sometimes etc, bit honestly if you're prone to forming attachments, it's best to avoid scenarios that would create that.
I didn't have a broken heart or anything close, was just pissed he didn't care enough to tell me. I wouldve understood and been like, "ok have fun".
Annnyway, drama-filled relationships suck, don't get a crazy girl.
As for *** buddy: I was friends with mine. Watched anime sometimes etc, bit honestly if you're prone to forming attachments, it's best to avoid scenarios that would create that.
I didn't have a broken heart or anything close, was just pissed he didn't care enough to tell me. I wouldve understood and been like, "ok have fun".
Annnyway, drama-filled relationships suck, don't get a crazy girl.
Artemicion said:
Leviathan.Niniann said:
Sex only makes you feel empty if you're looking for love. If you're not wanting love/not ready for it it's fine.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
As for being a clinger... I'm not I was just horny and wanting to know if they wanted to hook up. A reply would have been nice.
It's hard to say where I am in this.
I recently had a fling, and I don't necessarily feel empty or lonely afterwards, but it would be nice to still hang around with that person and enjoy their company for things other than bedroom activities you know? I honestly don't have that many friends.
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Odin.Blazza said:
I'm practically a virgin.
JOKE!
Odin.Blazza said:
Artemicion said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I honestly think you do want a relationship, but you're scared of it. Don't be. Just try.
Even I don't know what I really want.
Too difficult to explain. But I guess if it comes down to one thing it's simply a matter of having things be easy going.
Online dating doesn't appeal or interest me at all.
Granted my social skills along with the majority of society have probably been dumbed down enough to the point that it has become the one and only feasible option.
But frankly, I rather just go through life and see what happens; I just need to get out more.
Artemicion said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
I honestly think you do want a relationship, but you're scared of it. Don't be. Just try.
Even I don't know what I really want.
Too difficult to explain. But I guess if it comes down to one thing it's simply a matter of having things be easy going. Hence the companionship/sex + friendship formula rather than being an item to each other.
I think the best approach to the discovery of a solution to your uncertainties would be to get laid and then see if you start feeling some strong emotions for that girlo. If not, rinse and repeat.
Odin.Blazza said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Odin.Blazza said:
I'm practically a virgin.
JOKE!
Seha and I can Eiffel tower you!
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Ramuh.Rowland said:
They never SEEM crazy at first... it's always after the sex.
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Odin.Blazza said:
Phoenix.Sehachan said:
Odin.Blazza said:
I'm practically a virgin.
JOKE!
Ramuh.Urial said:
Ramuh.Rowland said:
They never SEEM crazy at first... it's always after the sex.
I second Urial's comment.
Ramuh.Rowland said:
They never SEEM crazy at first... it's always after the sex.
How does sex make a girl crazy D:<
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