Phoenix.Sehachan said: »
Depends what kind of secrets they are. If you don't tell her you were molested as a child, that's fine, if you don't tell her you turn into a drag queen every saturday night, that's a problem.
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Phoenix.Sehachan said: » Depends what kind of secrets they are. If you don't tell her you were molested as a child, that's fine, if you don't tell her you turn into a drag queen every saturday night, that's a problem. Bahamut.Raenryong said: » Lakshmi.Flavin said: » When your in a relationship with someone, only a couple months in, are you supposed to tell them every one of your deepest darkest secrets just because they want to know? Personally I keep some things to myself especially that early on. Recently I've experienced girls getting upset because you don't share everything about your life straight up. Am I supposed to be doing that? If it doesn't/won't have any kind of significant impact on them, it's none of their business unless you feel the need to share. HEY GUESS WHAT!? ... Oh, nevermind. :D Lakshmi.Flavin said: » When your in a relationship with someone, only a couple months in, are you supposed to tell them every one of your deepest darkest secrets just because they want to know? Personally I keep some things to myself especially that early on. Recently I've experienced girls getting upset because you don't share everything about your life straight up. Am I supposed to be doing that? Errr...The first couple of months of a relationship are usually the fun, exciting "honeymoon" period. I don't ask, and I don't expect to tell someone about baggage in the first couple of months. Boo-hooing from both sides kind of makes the relationship lose its luster that early on. Caitsith.Zahrah said: » Lakshmi.Flavin said: » When your in a relationship with someone, only a couple months in, are you supposed to tell them every one of your deepest darkest secrets just because they want to know? Personally I keep some things to myself especially that early on. Recently I've experienced girls getting upset because you don't share everything about your life straight up. Am I supposed to be doing that? Errr...The first couple of months of a relationship are usually the fun, exciting "honeymoon" period. I don't ask, and I don't expect to tell someone about baggage in the first couple of months. Boo-hooing from both sides kind of makes the relationship lose its luster that early on. Unless you are in a car for 10 hours at a time and need stuff to talk about >.> *cough* Caitsith.Zahrah said: » Lakshmi.Flavin said: » When your in a relationship with someone, only a couple months in, are you supposed to tell them every one of your deepest darkest secrets just because they want to know? Personally I keep some things to myself especially that early on. Recently I've experienced girls getting upset because you don't share everything about your life straight up. Am I supposed to be doing that? Errr...The first couple of months of a relationship are usually the fun, exciting "honeymoon" period. I don't ask, and I don't expect to tell someone about baggage in the first couple of months. Boo-hooing from both sides kind of makes the relationship lose its luster that early on. Every other weekend I dress up with my Optimus Prime Helmet, speedo and go out to the clubs and party.
Cerberus.Savannah said: » Unless you are in a car for 10 hours at a time and need stuff to talk about >.> *cough* Ramuh.Krizz said: » I'd rather it lose its luster early on than it be a lie. I want to know how things are going to really be. Not that fake pretending to be something you aren't or trying to hide your flaws. Okay this makes sense. Still, if someone starts whining about the deep emotional scars they harbor because a kid in the second grade launched a snot rocket at them during color time...I'm going to laugh. Hades.Cheyne said: » Every other weekend I dress up with my Optimus Prime Helmet, speedo and go out to the clubs and party. Hades.Cheyne said: » Every other weekend I dress up with my Optimus Prime Helmet, speedo and go out to the clubs and party. Poor Cheyne...he's going to be stuck glomping Eli when I leave...does she even log in anymore? idunno o.o I personally wouldn't tell them anything, or better yet throw out some overt lies. no one really wants to know that stuff striaght away. silence will only make her think you're a real deep/brooding kind of guy, & a sense of mystery will only make her all the more interested
Hades.Cheyne said: » Good luck with that!! *disappears without a trace* Ramuh.Rowland said: » Sex on the first date? Thoughts? I've done it. Ramuh.Rowland said: » Sex on the first date? Thoughts? I know it sounds like a paradox, but that's what "adventures" are. If you're trying to build a relationship it could be better to go step by step. Phoenix.Sehachan said: » Uh, if you're serious about it probably not. I know it sounds like a paradox, but that's what "adventures" are. If you're trying to build a relationship it could be better to go step by step. It doesn't actually matter. Sex and a relationship are two completely different things. But if you want to go old school I'm not going to stop you. My most serious relationships to date were based off having sex on the first date, so you tell me.
Ramuh.Rowland said: » Sex on the first date? Thoughts? Mr. Tupac Shakur said it best, "I hate to sound sleazy, but tease me! I don't want it if it's that easy" Deep dark secrets? After a couple months? Depends on how serious the secrets are and how serious the relationship is. Some people take a 'couple months' to be puppy love and some people take it to be practically engaged. If your girl is clingy or wants you to put a ring on it, she might be more likely to get upset over personal secrets.
Sex on a first date? Not for me. I'd still not know someone very well after one date, so it would feel kinda like having sex with an almost-stranger. Creepy. But for people who aren't as shy/closed-off/naturally nervous as I am might be fine with it. Their choice, no worries. Being comfortable enough with someone to have sex on the first date could mean that the person is either a really good match for you and connected with you well, or something far less favorable. Shouldn't be too hard to tell which either, unless you're horribad at reading people.
Then again, I generally don't date someone unless I've felt them out first and know they're somewhat close to someone I'd like to be with, so mileage may vary. |
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