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Random Thoughts.....What are you thinking?
Leviathan.Mercurylost said: » Shiva.Spathaian said: » Quetzalcoatl.Yomisha said: » Gotta be a nice guy without being a pushover, clingy and for *** sake, think for yourself! see, i don't think not being able to decide what you want and asking the other person is being a pushover. if you have no strong opinion one way or the other what does it matter if the other person chooses whatever. and if they choose something you hate it's not like you won't say sure no problem, or is it just me?
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Fenrir.Niniann said: » Ramuh.Urial said: » Then again at times I act like I'm from Georgia in the 1960's not modern era. rofl, yeah that's what Night and I were just discussing. If I want to pay for your dinner YOU DAMN WELL BETTER ACCEPT IT. Unless you're rich. If you're stupidly rich you're payin'. I'm far from stupidly rich it's just one thing that I insist on. Unless she's stupidly rich. xD Quetzalcoatl.Xueye said: » Equal rights but not equal work, I see how it is :P Why am I getting quoted. I pay for Night's dinners frequently. o_o; Ramuh.Urial said: » Stupid neofeminist girls want preferential treatment, real women earn their equal status.
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Leviathan.Mercurylost said: » see, i don't think not being able to decide what you want and asking the other person is being a pushover. if you have no strong opinion one way or the other what does it matter if the other person chooses whatever. and if they choose something you hate it's not like you won't say sure no problem, or is it just me? The main issue honestly is this: girls are typically more submissive. Girls don't want to be picking what to do all the *** time, it's a huge burden. This goes for guys too, even alphas. Both parties need to get a spine and contribute. Also suggesting something and having the other person go "no I don't wanna" is annoying as hell. Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » I actually just said something about that to Nini lol. Rejecting her generosity to assert your own leadership isn't alpha behavior at all to me, it's an expression of old gender sterotypes. Something I'm far too familiar with living in Georgia... some things are slow to change. /hi5 for regional gender roles! You know you're screwed though when you tell her to cook you dinner...right.
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Fenrir.Niniann said: » Shiva.Spathaian said: » This is a pretty big issue for me. I've been quite a pushover for most, if not all of my life. Thinking for myself, I'm not sure if that's an issue or not. But I do hate being asked to choose something to do because I honestly can't ever decide what exactly I want. In which case I'm likely to omit my vote or simply ask for the other person to decide instead. >.< :< Yeah, you should grow a spine (no offense!), I'm not sure how, but do it! I know it's possible to be born spineless then grow one. On that note, this might not be you since you've stated you're a pushover, but it's completely possible to just be 'easy-going'. I don't usually pick what to do/where to go unless I'm like really in the mood to do something/eat something. If I actually have no opinion I'll just say you can pick something. If they can't pick something out of indecisiveness or whatever, I'm completely capable of picking something though. Sometimes I'll even do, "anything but this this and this" because the most obnoxious thing ever is to be with someone without an opinion, then you give an idea and they're like "no I don't wanna." I try to not be that guy. I'm extremely easy-going, especially when I'm with friends. I have fun just seeing other people having fun a lot of the time. That being said everything else in that post seems pretty damn close to me if not right on the dot. :x Ramuh.Urial said: » Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » I actually just said something about that to Nini lol. Rejecting her generosity to assert your own leadership isn't alpha behavior at all to me, it's an expression of old gender sterotypes. Something I'm far too familiar with living in Georgia... some things are slow to change. /hi5 for regional gender roles! You know you're screwed though when you tell her to cook you dinner...right. Not the worst thing given that I enjoy cooking I guess. Fenrir.Niniann said: » Leviathan.Mercurylost said: » see, i don't think not being able to decide what you want and asking the other person is being a pushover. if you have no strong opinion one way or the other what does it matter if the other person chooses whatever. and if they choose something you hate it's not like you won't say sure no problem, or is it just me? The main issue honestly is this: girls are typically more submissive. Girls don't want to be picking what to do all the *** time, it's a huge burden. This goes for guys too, even alphas. Both parties need to get a spine and contribute. Also suggesting something and having the other person go "no I don't wanna" is annoying as hell.
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Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » I suppose I feel the same way about this as Morgan Freeman about racism. Ramuh.Urial said: » See, in college I didn't mind taking turns paying for nights out because we're all poor in college, but afterwards I started getting peeved when we started our careers. I think he became too comfortable with the way we operated in college. /faceplants EDIT: NVM. Yomi got me!
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Shiva.Spathaian said: » I can understand I need to grow a spine, but what you said does seem a lot like me. I'm extremely easy-going, especially when I'm with friends. I have fun just seeing other people having fun a lot of the time. That being said everything else in that post seems pretty damn close to me if not right on the dot. :x /nod I'm not going to annoy my partner by never contributing ideas (since it's a huge burden to come up with stuff all day e'rry day), but if they have strong opinions, I'm like whatever. If it's with friends they usually already know what they want to do, so I just go with the flow. As for everything else, fix it and you'll be a much better person for it~ >:3 Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » Hope you can make some good country cookin'...  cause we know someone can't!
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Ironically, my cooking skill is 3.
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Fenrir.Enternius said: » Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » I suppose I feel the same way about this as Morgan Freeman about racism. Night sounded sexist, but he didn't actually mean it in a sexist manner. What he really means (correct me if I'm wrong D:<) is that if a person (male or female) wants to be treated equally, that they have to earn it. He just stated woman as an example (besides the fact that we're talking about them), is because a lot of woman believe that they can act poorly and be given the same treatment as everyone else. My default response is still to pick up the check, but if she intercepts I'm not going to stop her. It's never expected though, which seems to be the difference here.
Ramuh.Urial said: » My mule has cooking skill! ; -; Fenrir.Niniann said: » Shiva.Spathaian said: » I can understand I need to grow a spine, but what you said does seem a lot like me. I'm extremely easy-going, especially when I'm with friends. I have fun just seeing other people having fun a lot of the time. That being said everything else in that post seems pretty damn close to me if not right on the dot. :x /nod I'm not going to annoy my partner by never contributing ideas (since it's a huge burden to come up with stuff all day e'rry day), but if they have strong opinions, I'm like whatever. If it's with friends they usually already know what they want to do, so I just go with the flow. As for everything else, fix it and you'll be a much better person for it~ >:3 Side Note: I've watched that Morgan Freeman video like 5 times now and I can't stop laughing. XP Oh no! Who is going to feed Nighfyre and Nini?!? No worries, Nini! I have a recipe for Rolanberry Pie that will make your man go catatonic!
Caitsith.Zahrah said: » Oh no! Who is going to feed Nighfyre and Nini?!? No worries, Nini! I have a recipe for Rolanberry Pie that will make your man go catatonic! Fenrir.Niniann said: » Quetzalcoatl.Xueye said: » While I can see where you'd come from with this, you must be paranoid when someone's just being nice to you or something o_O I might have become paranoid because of recent events, but the idea still holds true. Nice guys are typically out to satisfy themselves, not others. They want love so they can feel good/happy/whatever, not so the other person can feel good/happy/whatever. Caitsith.Zahrah said: » Oh no! Who is going to feed Nighfyre and Nini?!? No worries, Nini! I have a recipe for Rolanberry Pie that will make your man go catatonic! Peach Cobbler or GTFO!
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Fenrir.Niniann said: » Fenrir.Enternius said: » Fenrir.Nightfyre said: » I suppose I feel the same way about this as Morgan Freeman about racism. Night sounded sexist, but he didn't actually mean it in a sexist manner. What he really means (correct me if I'm wrong D:<) is that if a person (male or female) wants to be treated equally, that they have to earn it. He just stated woman as an example (besides the fact that we're talking about them), is because a lot of woman believe that they can act poorly and be given the same treatment as everyone else. What I'm saying is that girls shouldn't have to earn equality. There's more girls in this world than guys, and nature would tell us that girls are supposed to be the dominant gender. Obviously it's different for humanity, but I don't treat girls any differently than I would anyone else. Everyone's just a human being to me.
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